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This Is Not a Book About Benedict Cumberbatch

The Joy of Loving Something—Anything—Like Your Life Depends On It

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Why We Can’t Sleep meets Furiously Happy in this hilarious, heartfelt memoir about one woman’s midlife obsession with Benedict Cumberbatch, and the liberating power of reclaiming our passions as we age, whatever they may be. 
Tabitha Carvan was a new mother, at home with two young children, when she fell for the actor Benedict Cumberbatch. You know the guy: strange name, alien face, made Sherlock so sexy that it became one of the most streamed shows in the world? The force of her fixation took everyone—especially Carvan herself—by surprise. But what she slowly realized was that her preoccupation was not about Benedict Cumberbatch at all, as dashing as he might be. It was about finally feeling passionate about something, anything, again at a point in her life when she had lost touch with her own identity and sense of self.
 
In This Is Not a Book About Benedict Cumberbatch, Carvan explores what happens to women's desires after we leave adolescence…and why the space in our lives for pure, unadulterated joy is squeezed ever smaller as we age. She shines a light onto the hidden corners of fandom, from the passion of the online communities to the profound real-world connections forged between Cumberbatch devotees. But more importantly, she asks: what happens if we simply decide to follow our interests like we used to—unabashedly, audaciously, shamelessly? After all, Carvan realizes, there’s true, untapped power in finding your “thing” (even if that thing happens to be a  British-born Marvel superhero) and loving it like your life depends on it.
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    • Publisher's Weekly

      Starred review from February 28, 2022
      A surprise midlife obsession with British actor Benedict Cumberbatch provides the occasion for musings on passion, aging, and identity in this spirited debut from essayist Carvan. She describes how she became fixated on Cumberbatch after watching an episode of Sherlock, stockpiling her desk with ephemera featuring the actor’s face and watching his television and film performances multiple times over. The author details her investigation into her infatuation, including how her passion revealed to her the toll that motherhood and midlife had taken on her sense of self (“That’s the joke of motherhood: you don’t get to have children and be yourself”). Carvan shares her conversations with middle-aged (and older) fans, some of whom refer to themselves as “Cumberbitches,” including a high-ranking corporate executive and a retail worker who moonlights as a narrator of fanfiction audiobooks. Carvan’s self-aware approach wrings the absurdity out of her story to hilarious effect while touching on the realities of motherhood and fandom: “It’s not just about what we love, but how that love figures in our lives, and how it makes us feel.” The result is a weird-in-the-best-way account of self-discovery that brims with humor and insight. Agent: Catherine Drayton, InkWell.

    • Booklist

      Starred review from March 15, 2022
      Boy bands, heartthrobs, unicorns, sparkly shoes, Benedict Cumberbatch--what is it about these exuberant obsessions that makes them so much less worthy than, say, sports, trains, or tabletop gaming? Carvan has a hunch, and after becoming fascinated with the star of BBC's Sherlock, the culture critic delves deep into the mainly female-dominated world of so-called Cumberbitches, asking not just why they all love him but what impassioned fandom brings to their lives. For some, it's a creative outlet through fan art. For others, it has led to truly life-changing realizations that have nothing to do with Cumberbatch yet wouldn't have happened without him. For all, ""the most interesting thing about us; it's that we all seem so happy."" In a culture that still presses girls to be the ""mature ones,"" women to aspire to be ""not like other girls,"" and mothers to find both recreation and fulfillment in work and homemaking, Carvan argues for ""pure leisure . . . something just for herself, something that wastes her time."" Quoting Bren� Brown, Mary Oliver, and Gail Sheehy and referencing her own lifelong, complicated relationship with fandom, Carvan's loving but unapologetic manifesto is one to carry proudly on your next sojourn into the melee of backstage autograph seekers.

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    • Books+Publishing

      December 8, 2021
      When Tabitha Carvan suddenly falls in love with the actor Benedict Cumberbatch, who she has never met, she doesn’t know what to make of it. Her growing obsession simultaneously puzzles, embarrasses and intrigues her so she sets out to understand women’s passions, those deemed embarrassing and unserious by society. This book takes the reader back to Internet 2.0, the BBC series Sherlock and the personal essays that characterised the 2010s, and the author’s blogging credentials are clear from her intimate, self-deprecating writing style. She sounds like an Australian Caitlin Moran or Dolly Alderton. Carvan explores what her infatuation with Cumberbatch means by speaking to critics, journalists, content creators and fellow fans, as well as professors of history, psychology, biology and sociology. She searches for the source of and science behind her celebrity worship in case studies from history and medicine. Carvan also offers her personal experience. She writes honestly about losing her sense of self in early motherhood, her formative childhood and adolescent experiences, and the embarrassment and guilt she associates with her newfound love. She then expands this research into feminist territory, looking at the way women’s interests and things deemed ‘feminine’ are often disdained by mainstream society. This is Not a Book About Benedict Cumberbatch is an easy, lighthearted read about serious subject matter: feminism, passion, relationships and creativity, and owning the strength of the passions felt in childhood and adolescence. Fay Helfenbaum is a freelance writer and editor and was a bookseller for five years.

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